Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Disenchanted

I haven't posted in a while because I have been feeling kind of in the dumps.  My insurance has denied my revision surgery and their only basis is that it hasn't been 2 years since i had my original surgery.  They don't seem to take into account that I'm not tolerating my band and because of that I have an empty band just sitting in there not doing me any good.  So, either I wait it out until June and then have surgery, or I go to Mexico (the boyfriend is in total disagreement with this) or I get a lawyer and fight the denial.  I am hoping to move out of state before June of next year, so that would affect putting the decision off.  I was hoping to start having kids by the end of next year which would also be offset because of the surgery being postponed (can't have kids for a year after surgery).  The boyfriend is totally against Mexico (though at this point I'm all for it).  I could fight with a lawyer, risk losing the money it costs to do so, because there is no guarantee they will get the decision reversed and I may end up waiting until the 2 year mark anyway.  FRUSTRATION.  So yeah... I haven't felt much like blogging.  I don't have much to say.  I'm not gaining, and I'm not losing.  I'm just staying about the same and I'm frustrated.  There.  I'm done.  Got that out.

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  1. I'd be frustrated too. We're all here for you. I hope you find all the answers you need to decide what to do next.

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    1. Thanks lady. Trying to keep my chin up and not be a Debbie downer.

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  2. Okay, I'm going to say this as delicately as possible. And feel free to ignore any advice I'm about to give.

    It's your body. The boyfriend shouldn't have a say in this. Surgery in Mexico is totally safe, if that's what he's worried about. If you GOING to Mexico is what worries him, have him go with. I don't want you to be in pain or sitting around with your band not working and be in a holding pattern. You need to do what's right for you and your body.

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    1. It's not a controlling kind of thing. He's just scared for me. He admitted that he doesn't know a lot about it, but he's afraid. Immediately he reference Kanye West's mother getting surgery and dying from it. I explained to him that her doc here stateside wouldn't even do surgery on her and she went against their orders. He is just afraid for me.

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  3. Hey there. I was just thinking of you and wondering how you are doing? I hope all is well and you are starting to feel better.

    I don't know if I told you, but my insurance denied my revision for the exact same reason. I had to wait and do all of the things over...such as the psych exam, the 3 months supervised diet and all of the testing...and still wait until the 2 year mark to resubmit.
    I was approved then.

    Keep you head up and know that you are in my thoughts.

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